In the movie The
Cider House Rules, the character played by Michael Caine runs
an orphanage for boys. Every night, he says the same thing to the boys as they
to bed: "Good night you princes of Maine, you kings of New England."
The boys took comfort in it. It was something they could depend on.
Every night that I’ve been aware of my baby’s existence, I say to him, "Always
remember that I’m your daddy and I love you, and your Mama loves you,
I know his brain hasn’t grown the neurons necessary for processing language,
but I still like to talk to him and tell him about love. I plan to keep doing
it for many years, until he tells me to stop.
I mentioned this in a
previous post, and Jason left
a comment saying he did the same thing with his sons. Last week, I was talking
to my Discovery Toys manager on the phone when she said, "Excuse me for a
minute." Then I heard her talking to her three-year-old daughter away from
the phone and saying, "Just remember Mommy loves you, Daddy loves you, Katie
loves you, and Jesus loves you most of all. Now go let Daddy tuck you in."
I was flabbergasted. She told me the little girl can’t go to sleep unless she
hears one of her parents say those words. It’s important to her to know she’s
loved, and it’s important to the parents as well.
I’ve never met Jason in
real life, and I think it’s safe to he’s never met my DT manager. So we’re
came up with exactly the same thing to say to our kids. I don’t know if
there are any conclusions to be drawn from that. I do wonder what other (sweet)
things parents say to their children when putting them to bed.