Not an island

I had a friend once who worked with a woman whose husband was a youth minister.
My friend told me about some discussions he had with this young man, and the
things this youth minister would say always left me shaking my head in bafflement.
I remember one conversation in particular in which my friend asked this youth
minister what he thought of Promise
Keepers
. According to my friend, the YM said, "Well, I guess some
men feel a sense of inadequacy and feel like they need support and encouragement
from a group of men. There’s nothing wrong with that, I guess, but I personally
don’t need it."

For the record, I’ve never read the
PK book
or been to a PK rally. However, I have always sought out other Christian
men—not only those who are dealing with issues similar to my own, but also those
who have been through it before. I think men do themselves and their families
a great disservice when they neglect
to meet together
and
fail to encourage one another. We men need to be sharpening each other as iron
sharpens iron
. We need to be celebrating marriage together and showing other
men what a joy marriage can be.

Along these lines, a question recently arose concerning how many men read
this blog. I know there are some, because they leave comments and sometimes
send e-mails, but I suspect there are more. One reader suggested I do a poll
just to see how many male readers there are. I’m not quite industrious enough
to research poll services or technologies, but I think I would like to find
out how many men visit here. So, I’ll just ask that if you’re a man and you
visit this blog regularly, please leave a comment with your first name, your
city of residence, and anything else you’d like to say.

14 thoughts on “Not an island

  1. I’ve never been a ‘man’s man’, but when I became a Christian I finally recognized the comfort and strength that comes from fellowship with other men.

    Jared – Saint Louis, MO

  2. Curt, giving the young man the benefit of the doubt, I agree that Christian men who meet to fellowship together is a good thing. However, I don’t feel like I need to have an “organization” to organize a meeting for me. If I need to discuss things with other men of faith, I’ll simply talk with them at worship (which is what the passage in Hebrews is teaching), or have them over for a meal at the house, or call them on the phone, or email them (I’m on an email listserver for a small group of faithful men), or even post on their blogsites :o ). When you busy yourself with other men being about the Lord’s work, there are plenty of opportunities to fellowship together. Perhaps that’s the frame of mind this young man’s comments stemmed from. I don’t know for certain, of course, not having been there, but I suspect that the young man would not disagree at all with the premise behind your post. Sounds to me like his response was the “quick” one, that wouldn’t require much thought or discussion.

    Anyway, I read your blog regularly, and I’ve got a link to your site from mine as you well know.

  3. I HAVE BEEN TO A PROMISE KEEPERS RALLY. IT WAS A GREAT EXPERIANCE, CELEBRATING WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A COMMITTED CHRISTIAN MAN. IT WAS A TIME OF RENEWAL FOR ME AND GREATLY ENCOURAGING TO WORSHIP WITH A CAPACITY CROWD AT TEXAS STADIUM THAT HAPPENED TO BE MEN OF ALL AGES. WHILE IT WAS A GREAT EXPERIANCE AND A WONDERFUL OPPORTUNITY TO TAKE YOUNGER MEN WITH ME, I HAVE NOT GRIEVED AT NOT ATTENDING MORE.

    DAD, CELESTE, TEXAS

  4. I enjoy your blog. My wife and I celebrated our first anniversary in August, so I am relatively new at the whole marriage thing :-P . I want to be the best man I can be for my wife, and your posts are very encouraging for me. I don’t know if every guy needs encouragement – in fact, I could probably survive without it – but I find that when I isolate myself, all I do is survive. Encouragement helps me to go beyond my own survival to being the servant God wants me to be. Keep up the good work.

    Derek – Newton, NC

  5. Kevin – Southwestern Indiana.
    I’ve never PK’d either, my wife keeps encouraging me to go – but I have a thing against spending 3 days with a gazillion unwashed males.
    Plus, now they charge you to go – it used to be free.