His and Hers: How full a quiver?

His and Hers is a weekly discussion of a question or topic relating
to marriage. On Friday, my wife and I each write our thoughts on the week’s
topic. I invite others to do the same with their spouses as an exercise in
celebrating marriage.

How many children do you want to have eventually?

Mrs. Happy’s response

I’ve always thought that two kids would be ideal, especially if the two were
a boy and a girl, though I think I could live with three. Now that I’m pregnant,
however, I’m going to wait to see how this one turns out before making any
firm decisions.

Curt’s response

Short answer: 3

Long answer: I have one younger (by 4.5 years) sister and no brothers. That
was a great arrangement in our childhood, because we had a lot of fun together
and
in
my relationship with her I learned how to love sacrificially and unconditionally.
I think the presence of a third sibling could possibly even intensify the
love and companionship inherent in that bond (a
cord of three strands
and all
that). On the other hand, I’d be kind of afraid if my children were to
outnumber my hands. As my wife so wisely said, we’ll just see how this one
turns out.

3 thoughts on “His and Hers: How full a quiver?

  1. We *never* set out to have five kids, but here they are…and you hit the nail on the head, Curt—the companionship and the intensity of the love is heightened each time we bring a new baby home. I often think about how blessed our younger children are—they have so many welcoming arms and admirers from their first moments. And our older kids are blessed in turn, knowing the love they give to the little ones returns right back.

    I admit it isn’t for everyone, though. It’s a lot of work.

  2. Rubi and I had pretty much planned on two – had the first names picked out even before we started dating!
    Our first child is a girl, 3 years later we had a boy and decided we were finished having kids.
    God had other plans.
    Eight-ish months after Alexander was born, we found out we were having another baby.
    God must’ve known what he was doing, because our Catherine is a sweety!

  3. Even numbers are nice, especially when you go to theme parks and everybody has a ride-buddy. But, on the other hand, moms tend to lose the ability to go on wild rides after bearing a certain number of children (sad but true), so an extra, odd-numbered child might not be all bad for taking Mom’s place.

    If you have more than three kids, you generally need to get two rooms in the hotel when you go on vacation. We have four, so we have experienced this.