I read this earlier today and thought it was worth sharing here:
When sex is used destructively in a marriage it is both the consequence
of and the creation of a spiritual problem, a void within us and our relationship.
When sexuality is a healthy natural part of an intimate connection, it is
an integral part of the whole relationship. Imagine looking through a kaleidoscope
at all the color particles used to create a mandola [i.e., a circular
pattern used in many cultures as a representation of spiritual ideas—Curt]. Imagine each color
representing a facet of your life. One color represents your [spouse],
another your friends, another your work, another your hobbies, and another
is your sexual relationship. As you turn the kaleidoscope, the particles
change, constantly recreating the design. Sexuality is simply a part of life,
sometimes more in the forefront than other parts, and sometimes in the background.
It provides color and beauty. It is neither a devil nor a god. It is a wonderful
part of an intimate marriage relationship.
—from One Good Year of Marriage by Dr. David and Janet Congo