The Iowa legislature is looking to reduce the state’s divorce rate by as much
as five percent with new legislation
requiring premarital counseling for couples
who apply for a quick wedding license. Under the recently passed bill, couples
who get counseling would receive their marriage license after a three-day waiting
period. Without it, couples must wait 20 days.
One researcher says that the underlying secret to a happy marriage is the
ratio 5:1. Successful spouses share at least five positive interactions—such
as bestowing a smile, compliment or humorous quip—to counter every scornful
comment, condescending sneer or dramatic eye-rolling. I’ve heard others say 10:1.
I strive for 20:1 just to be safe.
Part of President Bush’s so-called War on Poverty is a provision
of $1.5 billion over five years for marriage education among the poor. One
responds to critics of
Mildred and Sandoe Hanna have been married
70 years. Says 90-year-old Mildred:
"It just goes by so fast, you don’t even notice."
Jennifer Lopez quote of the week: "The secret to a happy marriage is…
Oh, who am I kidding?"