If you’ve been reading this blog for a while, you may be familiar with the
concept of Q & A With Curt. You may not yet understand it, but
at least you’ve seen it before. For the rest of you, I’ll offer a short explanation.
Readers sometimes send me questions regarding something I’ve written, or about
marriage in general. Sometimes my answers are so profound that I feel driven
to share them with everyone. But most of the time, no one asks me anything,
and my answers are rarely profound anyway. So I make up my own questions to
go along with some actual questions from readers and publish them in a Q
& A With Curt post. This is one such post.
Why do you devote your blog to the topic of marriage?
I know the pain of divorce (my parents’) and the loneliness of bachelorhood (my
own). I think happily married people don’t encourage each other enough, and
maybe that’s because divorced and bitterly married people don’t want to hear
anything good about marriage. So I stand up and say, "I’m a happy husband,
and proud of it." For more details, see my
You’re such a great writer. Why don’t you write for a living?
I do, sort of. I have a bachelor’s degree in journalism, and even though
I’ve never been a journalist, every
I’ve had since graduating has been a writing job. They haven’t been particularly
computer manuals, sales
copy, and marketing stuff—but they have been writing jobs. That means
I do in fact write for a living, but not in the exciting reporter/novelist
most people mean when they say "write."
Who has influenced you most as a writer?
I have a great deal of admiration for the memoirs of James Thurber, the essays
of E.B. White, the novels of Charles Dickens, the columns of Dave Barry, and
the various work of C.S. Lewis, William Zinsser, and George Will. At times
I do consciously try to imitate them (usually poorly—cf. Charles Dickens
well as Dave
Barry and this blog’s Q&A
with Curt feature), but
whether their influence has filtered down to my everyday style, I don’t know.
Who have you influenced as a writer?
Whom. The word you’re looking for is whom.
Who has influenced you most as a husband?
Right before I got married, I read a book by Gary Smalley that gave me a lot
of excellent insight, so he is definitely an influence. I hope I’ve picked up
stuff from my pastor as well, because he has the most loving wife and children
I’ve ever seen. I know I’ve learned a lot from Mrs. Happy, too.
Whom have you influenced as a husband?
I don’t know that I’ve actually influenced anyone, but I hope I’ve
at least encouraged people with my words, actions, and blog.
Why do you call certain people your geek friends?
I only refer to three particular people that way. One refers
himself in the third person as The Mysterious Cloaked Figure,
one knows more about comic
books than he does about breathing, and one often
writes about Star Wars on a blog that is otherwise devoted to the Bible and
Do they call you a geek friend?
Yeah, but I don’t know why. I’m a geek by association, I guess.
We all know that double negatives are a no-no in English, but
have you ever heard someone use a triple-negative construction?
Fourteen years ago, I was on my way to a tire store to buy a new tire when
"You know, I’m not sure I wouldn’t see if they don’t have a good used tire."
I’m still trying to wrap my mind around that one.