His and Hers: Christmas artistry

His and Hers is a weekly discussion of a question or topic relating
to marriage. On Friday, my wife and I each write our thoughts on the week’s
topic. I invite others to do the same with their spouses as an exercise in
celebrating marriage.

What’s your favorite Christmas song, and what’s your
favorite Christmas movie?

Mrs. Happy’s response

Without a doubt, my favorite Christmas song is O Holy Night. Every
year I like to hear it sung live by a talented singer—it’s too difficult for
a moderately
talented singer to do it justice. If I can’t hear it live, I do like Josh Groban’s
version from Josh
Groban In Concert
.

I’m not a big fan of Christmas movies, but since I have to pick one I’ll pick
A
Miracle on 34th Street
.

Curt’s Response

I love Silent Night, especially the paradox evident in the second verse:

Silent night, holy night!
Shepherds quake at the sight
Glories stream from heaven afar
Heavenly hosts sing Alleluia!
Christ, the Savior is born
Christ, the Savior is born

I love the image of such an otherworldly celebration in the sky announcing
an event that occurs on earth every day—a birth—simultaneously comforting
and terrifying the shepherds on the night
that
Peace
arrives on
earth.

My favorite Christmas movie is sort of a source of contention between my wife
and me. I think A
Christmas Story
is one of the funniest, most touching and insightful
movies ever made. Mrs. Happy doesn’t like it at all. Usually, we either agree
on a movie’s value or at least understand each other’s opinions if they differ.
On this movie, there is no such understanding. I don’t know how anyone can
see A Christmas Story and not love it. She doesn’t understand any of its humor.
Maybe having a boyhood is essential to "getting" it.

His and Hers: Parenting

His and Hers is a weekly discussion of a question or topic relating
to marriage. On Friday, my wife and I each write our thoughts on the week’s
topic. I invite others to do the same with their spouses as an exercise in
celebrating marriage.

What’s your favorite part of being a parent so far?
What is your least favorite part?

Mrs. Happy’s response

My favorite part is my baby’s total and unquestioning dependence on me. I
think it’s also my least favorite part.

Curt’s Response

I love the way he looks at me as if I’m the only other person in the universe.
I hate when he poops in a new diaper before I can even fasten it. I think,
though, that both my favorite and least favorite part of parenting is the complete
responsibility for another life.

His and Hers: Family resemblance

His and Hers is a weekly discussion of a question or topic relating
to marriage. On Friday, my wife and I each write our thoughts on the week’s
topic. I invite others to do the same with their spouses as an exercise in
celebrating marriage.

What physical or personality traits do you think your
child inherited from you?

Mrs. Happy’s response

His sleeping abilities (anywhere, anytime, for any reason) and all the moaning
and whining he does about being woken up.

Curt’s Response

He has dry skin, passes a lot of gas, and has a full head of hair dominated by cowlicks. He has also developed an array of
very serious facial expressions. I just hope there is a playfulness behind
them.

His and Hers: First in line

His and Hers is a weekly discussion of a question or topic relating
to marriage. On Friday, my wife and I each write our thoughts on the week’s
topic. I invite others to do the same with their spouses as an exercise in
celebrating marriage.

Choose a book off of the nearest bookshelf. What is
its opening sentence?

Mrs. Happy’s response

"There is no lake at Camp Green Lake." —Holes, by Louis Sachar

Curt’s Response

"Sometimes you are a butterfly catcher, a person with a net." —The
Zen of Magic Squares, Circles, and Stars
, by Clifford A. Pickover

His and Hers: On this day…

His and Hers is a weekly discussion of a question or topic relating
to marriage. On Friday, my wife and I each write our thoughts on the week’s
topic. I invite others to do the same with their spouses as an exercise in
celebrating marriage.

Go to Wikipedia, enter your birthday in the search
box, and list the ten things in the resulting list that are most interesting
to you.

Mrs. Happy’s response

October 5:

Events
Births

Curt’s Response

June 26:

Events
Births
  • 1909Colonel Tom Parker, Elvis Presley‘s manager (d. 1997)
    I share two dubious dates with Elvis.
  • 1912Jay Silverheels,
    American actor (d. 1980)
    This is the actor who played Tonto in the old TV series The Lone Ranger. Jay
    Silverheels was actually his stage name. His given name was Harold
    J. Smith, and he was born on a reservation in Canada.
Holidays and observances

If I were a Yankees fan, I would have included the fact that Derek
Jeter
shares my birthday, and that he’s two years younger than me.

His and Hers: What else do you want to be?

His and Hers is a weekly discussion of a question or topic relating
to marriage. On Friday, my wife and I each write our thoughts on the week’s
topic. I invite others to do the same with their spouses as an exercise in
celebrating marriage.

If you could try any profession other than your own,
what would it be?

Mrs. Happy’s response

I’d like to try being a crime scene investigator. That job has
science, puzzles, and a real sense of accomplishment when a case gets solved.

Curt’s response

I’d like to try being an actor. I can’t imagine a better job
than one where you get paid to express yourself, let out your emotions, and
explore every aspect of the human condition.

His and Hers: TV parenting

His and Hers is a weekly discussion of a question or topic relating
to marriage. On Friday, my wife and I each write our thoughts on the week’s
topic. I invite others to do the same with their spouses as an exercise in
celebrating marriage.

What TV parents do you most want to be like?

Mrs. Happy’s response

Cliff and Clair Huxtable from The
Cosby Show
. They actually
talked and listened to their kids to resolve conflicts, they had a fantastic
sense of humor, and they were passionate toward each other.

Curt’s response

Rob and Laura Petrie from The
Dick Van Dyke Show
. They didn’t have everything figured out, but
they learned as they went along and had fun the whole way. They had loads
of humility and a wacky sense of humor about themselves, their son, work
life, home life, and everything else around them. I just hope I don’t trip
over an ottoman every time I come home. And I don’t intend to trade our
queen-size mattress for two twin beds.

His and Hers: Advice for Jerry

His and Hers is a weekly discussion of a question or topic relating
to marriage. On Friday, my wife and I each write our thoughts on the week’s
topic. I invite others to do the same with their spouses as an exercise in
celebrating marriage.

Real-life friend TheWriteJerry is getting married tomorrow.
What’s one bit of advice you have for him and his new wife?

Mrs. Happy’s response

Never go to sleep angry with each other. Unresolved arguments
cause worse problems than sleep deprivation.

Curt’s response

Do not ever expect your spouse to make you happy. That’s
a responsibility too big for any human being. Only God can fulfill you and
bring you contentment. The most another person can do is make you happier.

His and Hers and (this week) Baby’s: Fame and fortune, without the fame

His and Hers is a weekly discussion of a question or topic relating
to marriage. On Friday, my wife and I each write our thoughts on the week’s
topic. I invite others to do the same with their spouses as an exercise in
celebrating marriage.

When you ate Chinese food earlier this week, what message
was in your fortune cookie?

Mrs. Happy’s response

"As the purse becomes empty, the heart becomes full."

This isn’t exactly my idea of a fortune, but if it’s true, then our hearts
are becoming fuller by the minute!

Curt’s response

"Be a Winner."

Yes, the word Winner really was capitalized. The companies that print
these up apparently have no quality control. And since the last few "fortunes"
I’ve gotten have been more like adages than predictions, I think maybe it’s
time that some entrepreneurial Christian started printing Bible
verses
to put
into
fortune
cookies. I don’t know how many Chinese restaurants would buy them, but I’d
prefer reading "Let a man meet a she-bear robbed of her cubs
rather than a fool in his folly" over something like "Be a Winner."

Baby Happy’s response

"You are the guiding star of his existence."

Though I am not yet entirely sure whether I enjoy or detest Chinese food,
I must admit a sense of bafflement concerning the concept of fortune cookies
in general and my fortune in particular. Daddy tells me that the use of a possessive
pronoun without even the hint of an antecedent is never a good idea, but that
even if we knew the "his" that is referenced, any man would be an abject fool
to look to a preborn baby for guidance in his life. I’m not even sure what
Daddy means by all that, but he is the smartest man I’ve ever met so I will
trust
his
judgment.

(At least the flip side of the fortune taught me that the Chinese word for
yellow is pronounced huang-se.)

His and Hers: Singing praise

His and Hers is a weekly discussion of a question or topic relating
to marriage. On Friday, my wife and I each write our thoughts on the week’s
topic. I invite others to do the same with their spouses as an exercise in
celebrating marriage.

What is your favorite hymn or praise chorus?

Mrs. Happy’s response

Without a doubt, mine is And Can It Be. I especially like the arrangement
we have for our church choir.

And can it be that I should gain
an interest in the Savior’s blood!
Died he for me? who caused his pain!
For me? who him to death pursued?

Amazing love! How can it be
that thou, my God, shouldst die for me?
Amazing love! How can it be
that thou, my God, shouldst die for me?

No condemnation now I dread;
Jesus, and all in him, is mine;
alive in him, my living Head,
and clothed in righteousness divine,

Amazing love! How can it be that thou, my God, shouldst die for me?
Amazing love! How can it be that thou, my God, shouldst die for me?

Curt’s response

I grew up in Southern Baptist churches singing old four-part hymns, so that
music will always be special to me. For pure meditative worship, though, nothing
beats Glorify Thy Name.

Father we love You
We worship and adore You
Glorify Thy name in all the earth
Glorify Thy name
Glorify Thy name
Glorify Thy name
In all The Earth