Miss O’Hara had
a really good idea a while back. She asked her readers to ask
her questions that she
could collect and answer
in a post. Later, Irene did something
similar when she invited her readers
to ask her questions
about her career in journalism, questions she later answered.
I’ve considered doing something like that here. I even have a category set
I’ve never invited questions, however,
for fear that no one would ask me anything. I imagine people sitting at their
computers thinking, "You’re a husband, you’re happy, and you’re celebrating
marriage. What more is there to know?" There’s a lot more to
know, frankly. I’m a man of
complexity, noble in reason, infinite in faculty, in action like an angel,
in apprehension like a god, the beauty of the world, the paragon of animals,
and still merely the quintessence of dust.
And I quote Hamlet in
Though I don’t really solicit questions, I do welcome them. People e-mail
me sometimes. I don’t receive enough e-mails to fill up a whole post with answers,
so I concoct
few to fill out the space:
What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received?
MCF once referred to Dave Barry’s humor as "Hendley-esque." I e-mailed a commenter
once, and she responded by saying, "Getting an email from you is like getting
a letter from Bill Bennett or C.S. Lewis!" Both of those compliments made my
heart skip a beat. But maybe the best came from a reader who stumbled across
my old site and left this comment: "As someone who doesnt really believe in
marriage, I must say that if
such a marriage as yours can exist, then marriage cant be all bad. If
ever I get married, I hope I will find someone who I can love as much as you
do your wife!" That one nearly made me cry.
Did you really say that Rey makes "mistakes born of ignorance that tries to
sound sophisticated and impressive"?
Some bloggers like to put quotes in their sidebars to let readers know what other
bloggers say about them. Rey pulls quotes out of context
and posts them to make it look like people say a bunch of nasty things about
him. He needn’t go to all that trouble. People say plenty of nasty things about
him without his having to pull anything out of context. I did
say that about
him, but he neglects to mention that I also said, "For the record,
I have no problem with that."
Speaking of sidebar quotes, Amy
Scott claims that you
called her a "highly competitive porkpier." What the heck does that mean?
Basically, it means she’s zealous in her pursuit of porkpieing. She pulled
that quote from the
same post Rey pulled his quote
from. Funny how that happened.
What’s one good thing about marriage?
What’s one bad thing about marriage?
I’ve been married for seven years, and I still have trouble believing how fast
a woman can use up a roll of toilet paper.
Pretty much every Christian agrees that God meant sex only for married couples,
but what about kissing?
That’s a pretty thorny question. I once wrote about it in another questions post, so check that out.
Is that all you have to say about the issue?
I suppose not. I remember being young, single, and frustrated with spiritual leaders who would talk
around an answer instead of saying something simple and definitive.
to say, "Yes, it’s sinful for Christians to kiss if they’re not
married," but I’d have no confidence in that answer. Unfortunately,
the Bible doesn’t give us a commandment on where to draw the physical intimacy
line when it comes to premarital relationships.
How did that play out in your pre-marriage life?
was a real revelation to me the day I realized that sex is much more than
just intercourse. James Dobson had a good
essay about that in his book Love for a Lifetime. Looking back
on my life, I wish I had never kissed a woman other than my wife, and I wish
I had waited longer with her. If I could go back and do
over again, I would kiss her for the first time on the night I asked her
to marry me. The other girls I kissed still haunt my memory sometimes, and
be a lot better off without that. Anything that robs attention or privilege
from your spouse (current or future) is something that robs you of a great
deal of joy.
Why don’t you ever talk about marriage-related issues like same-sex
marriage, single parenthood, and divorce rates or offer resources and advice
trying to heal a marriage?
Other sites do that much better than I ever could. My purpose here is to celebrate
marriage, to demonstrate what a deep and abiding joy it can be, and to hear
from others that they love marriage too. I stay away from the negative issues
for the most part because there aren’t many places in the world or the blogosphere
where marriage is embraced rather than mourned.
Are you really the only one celebrating marriage?
Recent years have seen the emergence of a number of blogs that also
celebrate marriage, and even more celebrating parenthood. When I started blogging
over two years ago, I couldn’t find any. Now I have a whole sidebar full of
If you search your iTunes library for song titles containing the letters q and z, how many results do you get?
One: Lovin’, Touchin’, Squeezin’ by Journey.
You like Journey?
My wife put that on our computer. I swear.